20 Quotes From Birth Mothers About Adoption

Quotes From Birth Mothers About Adoption

Birth mothers can offer so much to each other, adoptive families, and to the children. We just need to listen and hear what they are saying. For a birth mother, adoption can be the hardest and most rewarding experience in their lives, just as adoption is for the adoptive family. Let’s take a moment to celebrate these amazing and strong, beautiful women with some of their own words. Here are 20 quotes from birth mothers:

  1. “There are two different kinds of strength. There’s the strength to make a parenting plan and then there’s the strength to give that plan to another.”   – Unknown
  2. “He is mine in a way that he will never be hers, yet he is hers in a way that he will never be mine. And so, together, we are motherhood.”   – Desha Woodall
  3. “The most important part of my adoption journey was realizing that my decision to place did not mean that I was not good enough. It was my circumstances, not my ability to mother, that made placement the right decision for me.”  – Annaleece Merrill
  4. “Today I celebrate the day I became a Mother. I had a beautiful baby girl. I loved her with a love beyond my own abilities and comprehension. My love for her was a gift. It was the only thing that made it possible to place her into her loving parents’ arms just a short time later. Today, I will celebrate her. I will choose to remember it all: the amazing, the devastating, and the beautiful. Because for now, it’s the only gift I can give her.” – Emily Cooper
  5. “In adoption, a child is not given up. A birth mother gives life, a child a family, unconditional love. She gives a part of her heart that will never feel whole. She gives another mother a part of her heart that was missing…you give a lot, just never give up.”  – Terra Cooper
  6. “From the moment I found out about you, I loved you. That loved didn’t even compare to the amount of love I had for you the day I placed you in you new parent’s arms.”  – Jill Wong
  7. “If you love someone unconditionally and with your whole heart, then you will do what is best for them, not you. I have never learned a harder lesson than giving my child up for adoption, and I probably never will.” – Sarah Sowel
  8. “Adoption is the hardest thing you will probably ever do in your life. You feel like you heart is being ripped out. But, if you are doing it for all the right reasons, your life, will truly be blessed forever.” – Laura Gladden
  9. “I felt more love for my baby than I had ever experienced before. But I found that the more I loved him, the more I wanted to find out what would be best for him throughout his entire life. The things I wanted most for him (a stable family with a mother and father, a home to live in, a mother who could stay at home with him, financial security, etc.) were things I could not provide. So it was because I loved him so much that I chose adoption.” – Martina
  10. “I didn’t just give her away, I risked my happiness for her life.” – Janel Indingaro
  11. “As a birth mother, I did not give up my child. I did give up being that child’s mother, seeing their firsts, watching them grow up every day. But, I never gave them up. I placed my child in their family. I gave them everything I had and more. They are apart of me, my soul and heart.” – Ellie
  12. “It always made my day/week to get pictures and updates from my daughter’s adoptive parents.  I felt like it was reassurance that I had made the right decision and she was indeed in the right place, where God intends her to be.” – Crystal Rae
  13. “A birth mother puts the needs of her child above the wants of her heart.”  – Skye Hardwick
  14. “A birth mother’s conviction and knowledge of what she feels is right, is a force to be reckoned with.” – Jessa Speight
  15. ” It is not hard to know what is best, it is just hard to overcome all of the emotions involved.”              – Haley M.
  16. “The decision to place is one of the most difficult I’ve ever had and probably will have in my life.  Birth parents just need to realize that placing shouldn’t make you feel guilty and having a life after placement is okay. Your decision is for the both of you, child and parent. Birth parents have made an ultimately selfless decision and they deserve to have a life and not let that go in vain.”   – Nicole Price
  17. “Forgive yourself for not having the foresight to know what now seems so obvious in hindsight.”   – Judy Belmont
  18. “You are making another family extremely happy and you may not even realize it. I knew it, but it wasn’t until I saw the three of them together that next morning that I realized all their dreams had come true and it was thanks to me and my sacrifice for them. Keep that in mind when you make your choice if you can’t give the baby the love or life that you wish you could, there is a family here that can.”  – Lona
  19. “A mother’s love for her child is like no other love. To be able to put that feeling aside because you want the best for your child is the most unselfish thing I know.”  – Natasha W.
  20. The only way for me to get through my sorrow was to see their joy. And still today it gets me through. If you can find comfort and peace with your decision, you’ll not only get a second chance to life but your baby will too.”  – Sara

Bonus:

“Giving birth does not make a mother. Placing a child for adoption does not make her less of one.” – Adoption.com

8 Quotes From Women That Faced Unplanned Pregnancy

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Deciding whether to get an abortion is a life-changing decision and one that should not be taken lightly. You should receive advice from many different people. But why not listen to other young women who were in similar circumstances. Following are eight quotes from women who faced unplanned pregnancies and decided either to parent their child or place them in a loving adoptive family.

1. “A child is a blessing…”

This simple statement is #1 for a reason. This young mom I interviewed understands this about unplanned pregnancies. Our culture tends to view children as burdens, as expenses or as barriers on the way to success. But this single mom insists that even though there are struggles, her child has greatly blessed her life. Keep in mind that whatever circumstance you find yourself in, is not the baby’s fault. Your child will bless you regardless of your circumstance! Good things can come out of a bad situation. Be brave and hope for good things to come your way.

2. “I felt an instant connection”

One doesn’t need a study to show there is not only a physical connection between the unborn child and his mother in the womb but also an emotional connection, as well. Studies do show that an unborn child recognizes the voice of his mom, feels her joy and happiness as well as stress and trauma.

Far beyond the baby kicking or the physiological changes that take place during pregnancy, there is a connection between mom and her unborn baby. There is a definite connection.

3. “I loved him from the moment I knew I was pregnant”

There is an innate knowledge of a woman that she knows the fetus within her is alive. Body chemistry, emotional changes, physical changes is unlike anything she has gone through before.

4. “…I have a lot of support”

This young mom decided to keep and raise her baby even though she did not have support from the father. But she decided not to go it alone and surrounded herself with supportive people from her family and her friends and the faith community. Because of the support she receives her toddler is now thriving and happy and well cared for. Don’t go it alone! You are not the Lone Ranger! Whether it be the faith community or a Pregnancy Resource Center, or support from another woman who has experienced an unplanned pregnancy, surround yourself with people who will help you.

5. “Take it one day at a time”

Sometimes when we face crises, the problem in front of us seems so insurmountable that we cannot see a way around the problem. They may see the mountain, but not the road around the mountain. Women with unplanned pregnancies need to take one day at a time. Things will get better, like it did for this woman who found herself in an impossible situation. Take it one day at a time. An unplanned pregnancy is not the end of the world. There will be a tomorrow.

6. “I should have held the father more responsible”

Fatherlessness is a huge issue in this country. Children need two parents: A mom and a dad. Don’t get me wrong some of the best moms out there are single moms. But a boy going through puberty needs a man to help him get through those tough years. A young girl needs a father figure to show her kindness, compassion and true unconditional love. Sometimes fathers are let off the hook too easily and the burden placed on the mom alone. But far and above simply paying child support or being involved in his child’s life, abortion lets a father off the hook, big time. And enables him to continue the irresponsible behavior. Don’t let that happen.

7. “I got counseling, but needed more”

Get professional help. Sometimes the shock and stress of an unplanned pregnancy are enormous and sometimes unbearable. That stress filters down to the child. Sometimes it causes young moms to do things that are not logical: like not getting prenatal care or not telling anyone they are pregnant. Getting counseling from an objective source especially when depression presents itself. can help make sense out of what may seem like an impossible situation.

8. “I didn’t give up on my baby.”

What about rape, you ask? Shouldn’t a young woman who has been sexually assaulted have the right to abort that baby? I will answer your question with a question: “Why should a child pay the ultimate price because of the crime of her father?” Sexual assault is a horrible, life-altering event. But so is abortion. I interviewed a brave young lady who was raped. She decided not to abort but rather to place her blessing in a loving adoptive home. She is not alone in her decision. As a matter of fact, 75-85 % of all women who experience an unplanned pregnancy because of a sexual assault decide to bring their baby to term.

Don’t give up! If you keep your baby, you will be in the vast majority of women who chose the same thing. You have another human being who needs you and who is going to depend on you.

Bottom line is that there are many options when facing an unplanned pregnancy, not just one: keeping the baby and raising her yourself, allowing a relative to raise your child, or placing your child in an adoptive home are all viable choices.

For a perfect example of an effective, local Pregnancy Resource Center, click here.

4 Quotes About Being A Birth Mother

Quotes About Being A Birth Mother

Being a birth mother can hold some of the most beautiful and tragic emotions. Regardless of what a story may hold, there is no denying or hiding the emotions that come with placing a child. Fortunately, there is way more support for birth mothers today with social media than ever before. Not only is this support found on social media, but within the education that adoptive parents receive and the paradigm shift in adoption agencies as they realize birth mothers are of a great value to their child long after placement.

With these emotions, the feeling may ebb and flow as a child grows and a birth mother enters a new chapter in her life. Some of the most beautiful stories and poems have been written that outline the love a birth mother has for her child as well as the vulnerability she may feel as time passes. Here are four heart-wrenching and thought-provoking quotes about being a birth mother:

1. “When I chose adoption for my birth son, the last thing I did was give up.” – Sierra Kilpatrick

This quote unpacks the essence of the choice to place a child for adoption. Most birth mothers do not place their child because they did not want to try to parent. They placed their child because of many reasons that include bettering their life and the life of their child.

2. “A child born to another woman calls me mom. The depth of the tragedy and the magnitude of the privilege are not lost on me.” – Jody Landers

This quote is not from, but rather about, a birth mother. This very much echoes my sentiments toward the birth mother in my life. I feel incredibly blessed to be an adoptive mom to two incredible children, but my heart breaks that their mom could not parent. I don’t believe for a second that “God’s plan” was for them to be mine. It was not plan A. I am a mother to my two precious babies out of a place of necessity and love for both them and their mom.

3. “Giving birth does not make a mother… Placing a child for adoption does not make her less of one.” – Unknown

I love my children with all of my heart and they are my beautiful babies, but their mom will always be their mom. I will share the title proudly. They will have a relationship with me that she will never have with them and they will have a relationship with her that they will never have with me. The more love they have in their life, the better.

4. “Don’t judge a situation you’ve never been in.” – Unknown

There seems to be some sort of stereotypical judgment placed on birth mothers that the placement of their child came from some sort of bad life decision. Women place their children for a multitude of reasons and often times resulting from nothing that they did wrong. Regardless of why a child was placed, it is no one’s job to judge the decision or make an assumption about a birth mother. My children’s birth mom is one of the strongest and kindest people I know. If you have not been where she has been, keep your assumptions to yourself.

This Quote About Adoption Changed My Life

This Quote About Adoption Changed My Life

This quote about adoption is one that has always stuck with me:

“In Adoption, a child is not GIVEN UP.

A birth mother GIVES life, a child a family, unconditional love.

She GIVES a part of her heart- that will never feel whole.

She GIVES another mother a part of her heart that was always missing.

 

An adoptive mother GIVES a life and family to this child

She GIVES unconditional love.

She GIVES a part of her heart to another mother.

You GIVE a lot, you just never GIVE UP.”

-Terra Cooper

Where to start?!

Adoption is an incredibly complex web of interconnectivity. There’s those of us who have adopted a child, those who are adopted, and those who have given life. There are those who are deep in the darkness of infertility and considering adoption to build their families. In sharing with others about our adoption paths, we can be met with a lot of questions, doubts, support, assumptions, and biases. And well, let’s face it, we have our own; it’s just part of this process and is part of being human.

When we were chosen by our beautiful birth mother, I vividly recall family and friends’ incredulous comments about how could she bear to ‘give this child up?’ I couldn’t blame them for asking, admittedly, I was thinking the same thing. All I could see was my overwhelming desire–no, a need–to be a mother. It was hard to fathom her needs and desires at that time. I cannot speak to the loss I know she endured. She chose life for my daughter when she had another choice. She chose to give life. I can affirm the gift that she gave me.

This woman chose us, and she gave us the most selfless gift I believe anyone could ever give another person. She truly gave me back a part of my heart that was missing, and I know in so doing, a part of her own heart. I always tell my child that she was born from my heart. I tell her how much her “Tummy Mummy” loved her. I know that I will always have a piece of our birth mother’s heart here with us and that her gift not only changed our lives forever but indelibly changed hers. I want our birth mother to know that she also has a piece of my heart as well. I could never put into words our gratitude or feeling of love toward her…or to my daughter.

25 Quotes About Fatherhood

quotes about fatherhood

Ah fatherhood! There is nothing else in the world quite like it: a defining life event, a career paid in love and smiles, and a title like no other all rolled into one. All that fatherhood encompasses can be rather hard to combine into one cohesive description, but lucky for us a diverse range of men (and women) have been quoted making some heartwarming and humorous statements about all that fatherhood is. For a round up of my top 25 quotes about fatherhood scroll down!

  1. “Indeed, one of the greatest things a father can do for his children is to love their mother.” – Howard W. Hunter
  2. “The sacred title of ‘father’ is shared with the Almighty. … Fatherhood is not a matter of station or wealth; it is a matter of desire, diligence and determination to see one’s family exalted in the celestial kingdom. If that prize is lost, nothing else really matters.” – Ezra Taft Benson
  3. ” ‘Father’ is the noblest title a man can be given. It is more than a biological role. It signifies a patriarch, a leader, an exemplar, a confidant, a teacher, a hero, a friend and, ultimately, a perfect being.” – Robert L. Backman
  4. “Every day you are teaching your children what it means to be a father. You are laying a foundation for the next generation. Your sons will learn how to be husbands and fathers by observing the way you fulfill these roles.” – Unknown
  5. “There is no other relationship quite like that which can and should exist between a boy and his dad. It can be one of the most nurturing, joyful relationships in life, one that can have a profound impact on who boys become and also on who dads become.” – M. Russell Ballard
  6. “Fatherhood, in a sense, is an apprenticeship to godhood.” – The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, The Quorum of the Twelve Apostles
  7. “Fatherhood is leadership, the most important kind of leadership. It has always been so; it always will be so.” – The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, The Quorum of the Twelve Apostles
  8. “Before I got married I had six theories about raising children; now, I have six children and no theories.” – John Wilmot
  9. “Anyone who tells you fatherhood is the greatest thing that can happen to you, they are understating it.” – Mike Myers
  10. “Fatherhood will put a man through a lot, but it’s a tremendous job, the best in the world – even better than playing basketball.” – Derek Fisher
  11. “If I were to compare the Olympic decathlon to fatherhood, I would say fatherhood is a lot tougher.” – Bruce Jenner/Caitlyn Jenner
  12. “My father gave me the greatest gift anyone could give another person, he believed in me.” – Jim Valvano
  13. “The greatest mark of a father is how he treats his children when no one is looking.” – Dan Pearce
  14. “To her, the name of father was another name for love.” – Fanny Fern
  15. “Of all the titles I’ve been privileged to have, ‘Dad’ has always been the best.” – Ken Norton
  16. “Every father should remember one day his son will follow his example, not his advice.” – Charles Kettering
  17. “The quality of a father can be seen in the goals, dreams, and aspirations he sets not only for himself, but for his family.” – Reed Markham
  18. “Fatherhood is the greatest thing that could ever happen. You can’t explain it until it happens — it’s like telling someone what water feels like before they’ve ever swam in it.” – Michael Bublé
  19. “Any fool can have a child. That doesn’t make you a father. It’s the courage to raise a child that makes you a father.” – President Barack Obama
  20. “Having children is a lot like living in a frat house — nobody sleeps, everything’s broken, and there’s a lot of throwing up.” – Ray Romano
  21. “A good father is one of the most unsung, unpraised, unnoticed, and yet one of the most valuable assets in our society.” – Bill Graham
  22. “By the time a man realizes that maybe his father was right, he usually has a son who thinks he’s wrong.” – Charles Wadsworth
  23. “Anyone can be a father, but it takes someone special to be a dad.” – Wade Boggs
  24. “Becoming a father increases your capacity for love and your level of patience. It opens up another door in a person – a door which you may not even have known was there.” – Kyle MacLachlan
  25. “One father is more than a hundred schoolmasters.” – George Herbert

What are your favorite quotes about fatherhood? Share them with us in the comments!

25 Quotes About Motherhood

25 Quotes About Motherhood

Motherhood comes to us in different ways. Through biology or adoption, or some other way, women all over the world have become a part of motherhood since the beginning. Here are beautiful, funny, observant, and all around good quotes about motherhood. And don’t forget to share with us in the comments which quote is your favorite, or what other quotes about motherhood you would add!

  1. The quickest way for a parent to get a child’s attention is to sit down and look comfortable.” – Lane Olinghouse
  2. “Being a mother has made me so tired, and so happy,” – Tina Fey
  3.  “Children are not a distraction from more important work. They are the most important work.” – C.S. Lewis
  4. “The most precious jewels you’ll ever have around your neck are the arms of your children.” – Unknown
  5. No language can express the power, and beauty, and heroism, and majesty of a mother’s love.”– Edwin Hubbell Chapin
  6. Becoming a mother makes you realize you can do almost anything one-handed.” – Unknown
  7.  “The days are long, but the years are short.”– Gretchen Rubin
  8. “Mothers hold their child’s hand for a moment and their heart for a lifetime.” – Unknown
  9. “May your coffee be stronger than your toddler.” – Unknown
  10.  “All that I am, or hope to be, I owe to my angel mother.” – Abraham Lincoln
  11. “Men are what their mothers made them.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson
  12. “Loneliness and the feeling of being unwanted is the most terrible poverty.”– Mother Teresa
  13. “Life doesn’t come with a manual. It comes with a mother.” – Unknown
  14. “Nothing is lost until your mother can’t find it.” – Unknown
  15. “The most important thing a father can do for his children is to love their mother.” – Unknown
  16. “We used to want it all.  Now we just want to pee alone.” – Unknown
  17. “A mother understands what a child does not say.” – Unknown
  18. “There is no way to be a perfect mother and a million ways to be a good one.” – Jill Churchill
  19.  “Successful mothers are not the ones that have never struggled.  They are the ones that never give up, despite the struggles.” – Sharon Jaynes
  20. “Good moms have sticky floors, messy kitchens, laundry piles, and happy kids.” – Unknown
  21. “Being a mother is learning about strengths you didn’t know you had, and dealing with fears you didn’t know existed.” – Linda Wooten
  22. “She taught me that fear is not an option.” – Diane von Furstenberg
  23. “It’s not easy being a mother. If it were easy, fathers would do it.” – The Golden Girls
  24. “No matter how much I say I love you, I always love you more than that.” – Unknown
  25. “The loveliest masterpiece of the heart of God is the heart of a mother.” – St. Therese of Lisieux

12 Adoption Quotes

12 Adoption Quotes

I’m a big fan of quotes because they encourage me and give me something to hang onto. They are like beacons of light that give me guidance and pearls of wisdom that I ponder and memorize until they take up residence in the deepest part of me. Many quotes have to mean for a season, like some of these adoption quotes. While others I carry with me as the years pass.

There are a handful of adoption quotes that hold significant meaning for me. Some are in my son’s life book. Some I have discovered recently as our son grows and our needs change.

  1. “Adoption is a beautiful picture of redemption. It is the gospel in my living room.” – K.J Davis
  2. “I will not leave you as orphans I will come to you.” – Jesus, John 14:18
  3. “Not flesh of my flesh nor bone of my bone. But still miraculously my own. Never forget for a single minute that you didn’t grow under my heart, but in it.”   – Anna Grace
  4. “I love you because the entire universe conspired to help me find you.”  – The Alchemist
  5. “Parenthood requires love not DNA.” – Author Unknown
  6.  “You may not have my eyes or smile, but from that first moment you had my heart.” – Author Unknown
  7. “We didn’t give you the gift of life, life gave us the gift of you.”  – Unknown Author
  8. “A Father to the fatherless…God sets the lonely in families.”  –Isaiah 68:5-6
  9. “Adopting one child won’t change the world.  But for that one child the world will change.”  – Author Unknown
  10. “The adoption took time. The love arrived instantly.”  – Author Unknown
  11. “A child born to another woman calls me mommy. The magnitude of that tragedy and the depth of that privilege are not lost on me.”  – Jody Landers
  12. “There is an instinct in a woman to love most her own child; and an instinct to make any child who needs her love, her own.”  – Robert Brault

May these words give you inspiration and strength to persevere as you continue to love your children and yourself well.

What other adoption quotes do you like? Let us know your favorite adoption quotes in the comments!